Everyone needs space, be it in any relationship, but certain secrets are not exclusively yours to keep. A long term commitment requires complete honesty.
According to research, 60 percent of people in relationships keep secrets from their partner while 25 percent of people are currently hiding away one piece of important information from their partner. Sure, your partner isn't entitled to know everything. But it's a whole other thing to have 'secrets' from them. So, how do you differentiate between the stuff that's okay to keep to yourself and the ones that you need to share? Why do you keep your deepest secrets locked away from your partner anyway?
Some women hide certain things because they don't want to hurt their partner's feelings, while others fear disapproval from their partners. You are right to fear that revealing certain information could cause trouble in paradise, but keeping it to yourself for a long time only creates a communication gap between you and your significant other.
Here are 8 things you shouldn't hide from your partner:
Sometimes, it's easy to be passive-aggressive and let your partner figure out your emotions. Everyone does it and it may seem like the easy option, but it's not going to yield you the results you want. Deep inside, you want your partner to understand you, but that only comes from having heartfelt conversations with each other. Most problems arise from a lack of communication between you and your partner. Have honest conversations with your partner about your feelings and thoughts, and give them the space to understand your emotions.
Talking about your health issues with your partner can be difficult when you don't want them to worry or want their pity. In a real relationship, your partner is bound to be supportive when you open up about things that are important to you. Certain illnesses such as depression, anxiety or not being able to have children might make it a hard conversation to broach. However, your partner deserves to know the facts if you're planning a future together.
You can't change the past, however, you can come out of it wiser. Infidelity is a serious issue that can be difficult to open up about, but it takes a small effort from your side to discuss it with your partner and move past it, if they're willing. Keeping it hidden from your partner only prevents them from making an informed decision about you. They deserve the truth. It's unfair for you and your partner to be in a relationship which doesn't create grounds for honest communication.
No one wants to know that their partner has a past of criminal records, but hiding something like this is bound to create bigger friction than you can imagine. If you truly love each other, opening up about something this personal, shows that you trust your partner and that you're willing to learn from your mistakes. The past definitely plays a role in your life, but it doesn't define who you are if you have learned and moved past it. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt to understand your past.
When you're in a relationship, bringing up problems related to debts might be risky, but hiding it only increases the chances of arguments in the future, if not right away. Your partner will eventually find out someday, making the argument bigger in comparison to what it could have been. They will find it difficult to trust you with financial matters in the future.
Every individual has their own set of problems and drama that comes with their family. If you are with your partner for the long haul, then you're buying a ticket into their family. It's important to understand the family dynamics. The last thing anyone wants is an overbearing mother-in-law or a family that dictates what their children's life should be. You can help your partner by discussing certain points that they can bear in mind when they're with your family.
You can't have a long happy relationship until you decide whether you want to have children with your partner or not. Think ahead about the significance of your relationship with your partner before you commit to anything. When you decide that they are important enough, deciding on whether or not you want to have kids with them becomes clear. If you and your partner don't see eye to eye on this matter, it's bound to cause unwanted friction in your relationship later.
Sexual needs can be a difficult discussion to have with your partner. Maybe you're embarrassed to talk about what you want or afraid that you might want to engage in the same activities as your partner. Emphasize on your likes and dislikes and openly discuss what suits your needs the most. The secret to healthy sex life is the emotional intimacy you share with your partner, and that means being open to talking about lovemaking.