Holding on to a relationship that is negatively impacting our life and peace is not healthy. It is important to know if your relationship can be fixed or not.
Sometimes, we can be so blind in love with our partner that we fail to notice the cracks in our own relationship. Turning a blind eye to the rifts and differences, we focus only on the good times of the past and keep trying to mend it.
However, it is important for us to realize if it is time to move forward than sticking with a relationship that is hitting rock bottom. Here are a few signs that will help you understand that your relationship may have run its course.
Arguments and fights are normal in any relationship. It means that you and your partner have a very open communication channel. "Everything is a battle. Occasional arguments happen in the best of relationships, but when it becomes the norm, your relationship has become toxic," says Dr. Gary Brown, a prominent relationship therapist.
If most of your conversations are fighting or resolving those fights, it signals a problem in the relationship. In such a case, your relationship may be moving toward its end.
It is important to deal with our emotions carefully. However, when you are in a relationship, you need to think about your partner and what they are feeling. Though you are trying to be sensitive to your partner's emotions, they tend to be inconsiderate of you. They often think about themselves first and disregards your feelings or opinions.
“If she doesn’t stop to think about your preferences, she likely won’t be able to prioritize your happiness at any point. This can lead to dissatisfaction, disconnection, and a potential breakup,” says Samantha Burns, a Boston-based relationship counselor, and dating coach.
When you first got into the relationship, you saw a partner who believed in the same moral, values and even dreamed of common goals for the future. But now, it seems like both of you are heading in different directions. You are not able to find that common ground with your partner anymore. According to Psychology Today, relationships which are built on shared values are much more likely to endure than people with conflicting interests and values.
Keeping your faith in your relationship is a good attitude in most cases. But if you are subjected to emotional and physical pain, it is not worth it. Though you might hang in with your abusive partner for years, it might not help you fix the irreparable cracks in your relationship. No form of violence is ever OK, whether it be emotional or physical. "It is rare that this can be fixed without years of work on the part of the abuser... and then there is no real guarantee that you will get the outcome you want," says Dr. Brown.
Having noticed the problems in your relationship, you have tried every possible method to mend it. You gave it time, you had conversations with your partner and even tried couple's therapy. But everything seems to have no positive effect on your relationship and you just feel stuck.
"A relationship should be a positive force in your life, most of the time. Rocky patches are inevitable, but on the whole, a relationship shouldn't make you feel insecure, sad, angry, stuck, or confused," said Elle Huerta, CEO and founder of heartbreak recovery app Mend. It is a sign that says you might have to give it up.
Trust is an important part of any relationship. Every individual should be able to confide in their partner without feeling embarrassed or ashamed of anything. When the trust factor is lost, it is the beginning of a dying relationship.
"You want to know you can be vulnerable and share the deep, scary stuff with your partner and feel closer after," said Dr. Rebekah Montgomery, a clinical psychologist. If you have lost this trust, then its time for you to take a step back from your relationship.
Disclaimer: This article is based on facts collated from different sources. The views expressed here are those of the writer.