A healthy relationship is the result of constant work and care; when taken for granted, it falls fast and becomes irrecoverable.
Wanting your own time and space is normal in a relationship. We as individuals need to take intermittent breaks from the familiarity of our lives to rejuvenate. But when being together with your partner starts to feel like a chore, it should ring a bell. When your partner's daily habits and behavior seem different or unfamiliar, you should consider stepping up and taking action. These 5 tips will prove to be helpful if you are trying to save your relationship from falling apart.
It is a good idea to leave everything that worries and stresses you out behind and take a break together. Choose a place that appeals to yours and your partner's senses and plan together. Working on dates, itinerary, luggage, etc. could only bring you closer to each other even before you have taken off. During the vacation, do things together that equally challenge and support your bond. You might even end up learning something new about each other, for which you may not have had the time back home. Most of all, be there for each other and make memories.
All days in a relationship are not romantic. Some days you just want to push out your suppressed emotions. A partner who allows the other to vent out becomes their favorite person as in the end, it will only bring you closer to them.
"Every couple has what I call a 'good conflict'" says Ken Page, LCSW, a psychotherapist and an author. "Don't run from that conflict. It's supposed to be there. In fact, it's your key to happiness as a couple—if you both can name it and commit to working on it together as a couple. If you approach your 'good conflicts' with bitterness, blame, and contempt, your relationship will turn toxic, she adds.
Sometimes, it is a good idea to just listen to them and understand them. You are a team, remember?
Show genuine interest and concern about the day to day schedule of your partner. It's true that amidst all the Hi's, Hellos and small talks throughout the day, our eyes wait for that one message from the person we care about the most. Ask them about their work, schedule, and other chores, reciprocate to the details they give you, in a way that makes them feel connected to you.
"It is important to pay attention to what you and your partner actually do for each other as expressions of love, not just how you feel about each other in the moment," says Jeremy Nicholson, Ph.D., psychologist, and dating expert.
The importance of the word Thankyou is immense in a relationship. Showing gratitude to your partner for even their smallest of gestures can be powerful and healing. Also, a huge chunk of people craves for a loving partner and a relationship, if you have them both appreciate them. Give them a long, warm hug or cook them their favorite meal when they are tired of all the work they have done throughout the day.
While it is important to make and achieve individual goals, for a relationship to thrive, having similar life-goals is non-negotiable. Setting up common life-goals and working together to achieve them is what truly connects a couple and makes them their lifelong allies.
"Both partners need to commit to making it work, no matter what. The only thing that can break up a relationship are the partners themselves," says Kelly Campbell, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology at California State University.