It may work for you but not for everyone else!
Relationship advice is one of the most unsolicited forms of advice that people love handing out. While a lot of them do have some merit to them, there are others that may not work for everyone else. Here, for example, we have 15 marriage advice that people handed out and they turned out to be horrible for those who received them:
Folks who've been married: what's the WORST marriage advice you've ever received?— Samuel Perry (@socofthesacred) August 1, 2020
I'll start: "Never go to bed angry." Sometimes that's exactly what you should do. You're both tired & at your worst! Get some sleep. Wake up. Eat together. See if the argument is still so serious.
My mom and sister laughed when I said we'd make decisions equally. "Eventually, one of you will be the head, and it should be him."— Jan M 📚 (@JayelleMo) August 2, 2020
16 years later and we have yet to encounter a situation where we couldn't make a decision mutually.
I told some friends that my husband and I sleep in separate beds because he has insomnia and I'm a light sleeper. Was told our marriage is basically over and not worth salvaging lol we're stupid happy, going on 9 years, sleeping separately works very well for us— Antifa Broodmother (@ArielOfAutumn) August 2, 2020
"Stay together for your child". Let me tell you how everyone is happier and we feel much more like a family now than before the divorce. She's remarried and has another kid and we all get along swimmingly.— Mike Provencher (@RevilFox) August 2, 2020
The worst advice is, "happy wife, happy life." This is a partnership and we should both be working and sacrificing for each other's happiness.— EBM-F (@4thhowardson) August 1, 2020
That it wasn't a good idea to get married unless we had a big YELLING fight and taken our anger out on each other. We've been married over 2 years and still not had a yelling fight. We tend to sit and talk things out as calmly and kindly as we can.— Faith Boggus (they/she) (@abogguslife) August 2, 2020
In our first year of marriage, an old man said to my husband: “Do whatever your wife asks you to do around the house, but do it horribly. She will never ask you again.” 🤯— Amber Tolbert (@AmberTolbert58) August 1, 2020
This clearly violates the 10 commandments. And marital vows. And also, yah know, basic human decency. 😑
One of my friends was told by her mother on her wedding day, “Never deny your husband because your body is not yours.”— Kim Bakaev (@kbakaev) August 1, 2020
That I have to do all the “women’s chores,” (babies, grocery shopping, cooking, dishes, laundry, etc) and Jason has to do the “men’s chores” (taking out the trash and the lawn). In real life, you both pitch in as able and you both take care of the kids.— Jennifer Greenberg 🦌 (@JennMGreenberg) August 1, 2020
we’ve taken a couple marriage classes and have been told we need to have date nights twice a month.while that’s not bad advice, it puts a lot of hope in date night, and like we can’t have a good marriage if we don’t go out. we can connect over date nights “in”— Jena Entrekin (@Jwinne123) August 1, 2020
Some 36 years ago, someone told me that cross-cultural marriages never last.— Colin Baker (@ExploringRealms) August 1, 2020
I once heard the advice that if “you don’t want kids after getting married then you don’t truly love your spouse.” I have never wanted children & have been with my husband for ten years now, married for four of them. Still don’t want kids, but we’re both pretty dang happy— Lacy Pellegrini (@LacyPellegrini) August 2, 2020
A man in our church (who is no longer with us) literally told my husband to be in the church before our wedding, “The secret to a happy marriage is to keep your woman under control is to hit her first thing in the morning so she know who is the boss.”— Jen Davidson (@JenDavi64358092) August 1, 2020
When I told someone about the abuse/fights “you’re married now, that’s important, you should try harder to fix things. Marriage is sacred” - Never listen if someone tells you staying in a marriage is more important than escaping an abusive partner.— R2Dash2 (@R2Dash2) August 1, 2020
"Don't have separate bank accounts."— RetroDadnKids (@RetroDadnKids) August 1, 2020
In our relationship, I'm good w/bills, my wife is good w/household needs.
Accounts are seperated so I don't pay bills with food money, and she doesn't buy groceries with the rent money.
May not be for everyone, but it helped us a lot.