10 Married Women List The Unspoken Rules For A Successful Marriage And It's an Eye-Opener
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10 Married Women List The Unspoken Rules For A Successful Marriage And It's an Eye-Opener
These women shared their secrets for a happy marriage and many seem to agree with them.
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ByTavishi
December 29, 2022
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Marriage is all about the unspoken vows two individuals make to be with each other through thick and thin. Life is easier when a partner is understanding and makes efforts to help sustain a relationship. All in all, a marriage is a two-way road and one cant opt out of the responsibilities they sign for after getting hitched. Women have an equal edge to maintain a healthy relationship. Ten women shared their little secrets to a blissful marriage after the Reddit User u/Chris_3213 asked, “Married women, what are the unspoken rules for a successful marriage?” Here are ten women who responded to the question with a great understanding of a lifetime commitment:
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1. Don’t be the doormat Don’t let yourself be a doormat, but pick your battles. Communicate, compliment good intentions, learn your partner’s needs, and be there for them in hard times. Lean on them in your hard times and try to create fun times as much as possible. u/Myshellel
2. Don’t be co-dependent Marriage is a partnership, not a codependency-ship. You each need to have some independence and your own personality, interests, etc, as well as your relationship. Neither party should lose themselves in the other’s problems. Try before you buy. Live together, travel together, and get physically and emotionally intimate. Make difficult decisions and see how they act when they don’t get their way. Make sure your partner’s good intent is matched by their actions, and make sure you follow through as well. Have and expect integrity. At no time should you feel like your partner is an antagonist. They are your collaborator and equals. u/cliopedant
3. There’s always a price of admission which shouldn’t cross the line Understand that some things are just going to be the price of admission and accepting the person you married. Leaves a trail of crap when they come home for the day or forget the wet towel on the bed... easier to pick it up rather than get angry and just accept it's part of getting this person in your life. Sometimes the price of admission is too damn high (insert random destructive behavior). For me, the wet towel is annoying but it's worth the price of admission. u/Nuchie129
4. Choose the wise man I’m in a very happy and successful marriage. The truth is that most men in 2022 are not husband material. You can't polish a turd into a diamond. You need to be discerning when you date. It all starts with the quality of the man that you pick in the first place. Believe men when they show you who they are. Don't make excuses for men. Avoid falling for the sunk cost fallacy trap. u/chaotic_trash_panda
5. Don’t rush to marry Don't rush into a marriage. Be together for years so you know everything about each other, and make sure you're on the same page with dealbreakers. No one's gonna change their mind for the other person with a dealbreaker after marriage, nor should they be expected to. u/wrestlingWoman
6. Planning on the intimate moments Have s*x with your spouse. If it feels like it’s been a while since you’ve had s*x, communicate a plan to have s*x. u/littleAggieG
7. Keep the smiles and hugs up Greeting with smiles and kisses is so important! I remember reading a parenting magazine once that said something like "the most important thing to do for your kids is to always smile and light up when you see them." I think this is somewhat true for partners, too. It's a way to remind them how much they are loved. u/heidismiles
8. Appreciate your partner Acknowledge the little things your spouse does. When they’ve made you happy, let them know. u/littleAggieG
9. Don’t argue to win My husband knew a couple who disagreed on where the tomato sauce (ketchup) belonged. One said pantry, and the other said fridge. Every screaming argument they had spiraled back to the bottle of sauce. My husband suggested getting a bottle each to avoid the fight altogether. This resulted in another screaming match because it was never about the bottle it was about who was right. My husband and I live by the analogy that we can have “two bottles of sauce” to avoid the fight. u/TigerMumNZ
10. Be a team It's us against the world, baby. But seriously, we're a team. I'm his biggest fan and he's mine. We support each other, we believe if one of us succeeds we both succeed and if one is us falls behind, the other helps them catch up or takes the lead for a bit. Also, it helps if you like to do different chores. u/girlwithsilvereyes
